Why does your money story even matter? If you are trying to change the way you behave with money, why bother looking into your past? Because to deal with money well, you need to know what goes in the background of your mind. Often an echo of a memory can pop up – sometimes at the oddest times – with an unhelpful effect on your money habits.
In money coaching we talk a lot about taking agency and responsibility for your own money matters. But what happens if someone is controlling you by controlling your access to money? Financial abuse is a lesser known form of abuse which can take place in intimate relationships, in exploitation of older or more vulnerable people – and can happen to people of any gender in any form of relationship.
When clients come to me for negotiation skills coaching, many struggle to separate negotiation from ideas of fighting, argument and conflict. The core of this is that many people – especially women – see negotiations as risky situations threatening their relationships. When you need to negotiate with your partner or employer – you may worry that asking for more could undermine your relationship.