Shifting your behaviour around money when your life is in chaos can be a particularly confusing and unspoken kind of pain. Everyone seems to think you’re doing fine, but you are dying inside. It’s hard to talk to someone who hasn’t experienced it. I have.
Why does your money story even matter? If you are trying to change the way you behave with money, why bother looking into your past? Because to deal with money well, you need to know what goes in the background of your mind. Often an echo of a memory can pop up – sometimes at the oddest times – with an unhelpful effect on your money habits.
It all kicked off when the other day we were enjoying time with friends who had come to stay with us for a couple of days. As always happens with my friends now, the conversation turned to money – how much we’d like to have, what we’d do with it and how to invest.
When you are trying to make good decisions about money – it is so tempting to just focus on the numbers and ignore everything else – right? Wrong. If that were the case, we could let our calculators make the decisions for us.
In money coaching we talk a lot about taking agency and responsibility for your own money matters. But what happens if someone is controlling you by controlling your access to money? Financial abuse is a lesser known form of abuse which can take place in intimate relationships, in exploitation of older or more vulnerable people – and can happen to people of any gender in any form of relationship.
Thanks to @bhavesh1024 for this excellent question. When everyone around you is panicking about market downturns and recession on the horizon, how can you avoid the crazy sell off? And importantly, how do you ensure that those around you make good decisions as well? These are chaotic times and – no matter what experience you…
When clients come to me for negotiation skills coaching, many struggle to separate negotiation from ideas of fighting, argument and conflict. The core of this is that many people – especially women – see negotiations as risky situations threatening their relationships. When you need to negotiate with your partner or employer – you may worry that asking for more could undermine your relationship.